How many of you grew up in a home where you were truly allowed to thrive? I’m talking about when you set out on your bike and really explored - when you listened to the entire soundtrack of “Toy Story” in your underwear creating a story filled with tragedy, hope and redemption - when you…
Have you ever stopped to think about the language you use to your spouse? I’m talking about the actual words, your vocabulary you use. In reality, your words can bring true healing or sure destruction to your spouse and ultimately to your relationship. This may seem like common sense, but let me explain why: Criticism…
Discovering that your spouse has been unfaithful can potentially be the most devastating thing that one could ever experience in a marriage. Regardless of the context or nature of the affair, in most cases, it is extremely difficult to know how to handle the cascade of thoughts and feelings that follow such a discovery.The good…
Let’s assume that you began reading this post as a woman or wife and/or mother. I’m glad you’re here (I’ll talk to husbands later). This message is for both men and women. Regardless of your current circumstances, healthy or unhealthy, positive or negative, “good” or “bad,” you have prayed or are praying for a partner…
Every Memorial Day weekend, race fans from around the world come to the city of Indianapolis, Indiana to witness what has been called the greatest spectacle is racing, The Indianapolis 500. As a kid, growing up in the small Indiana city of Crawfordsville, I always heard of the big race in the "big city" and even…
Finding yourselves stuck in the same conflict over and over again? Stop spinning your wheels. Try these 4 steps and be on your way to becoming a master of managing conflict!
You may be wondering... What in the world is the "Q-Tip Challenge?" It begins with a story. In June of 2014 my wife and I stated our vows and said "I do." After our incredible honeymoon in the Dominican Republic, we both came home to a clean apartment, -$150 in our bank account and many,…
As I have worked with couples in private-practice, I have noticed a couple things about couples who come in and see me: They have never once considered therapy and have no idea what to expect. They have had awful experiences with therapists/counselors in the past. While the first can be expected, I want to eliminate…
How many times does it feel like you're preparing for battle or you feel like you get dropped in the middle of "war zone" every time a conflict comes up? You may know it is coming and have your defenses up and ready, but other times it hits you like a big left hook and…
Read Part 1 & Part 2 of this three part series before continuing below. The two previous articles give us a foundation for relationships and marriages as we move to our final steps to having a deeper, more intimate connection and marriage with the person that we love the most. Over this past weekend I was…
