Many of us throughout the last several months have been adapting to new normals that seem to change every other week. Whether your day to day and week to week has seen little change or your entire life, livelihood and well-being has been turned upside down - our world has changed. The Beginning - Staying…
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Infidelity and Trauma
The experience of going through infidelity (or any kind of betrayal) is the very definition of trauma. The very upsetting, confusing, surprising, scary event shakes most individuals to their very core and leaves a devestating wound that may take years to heal. Some may understand that this is a traumatic event, but few understand the…
Women Don’t Need Love… But
From the end of 2016, it seems to be that women have flooded all of the media outlets from #nastywoman, #metoo, to the most recent #timesup movement. While I haven’t carefully followed much detail of these news stories, I cannot help to be heartbroken, angry, and simply disappointed over how women are/have been treated and…
Destructive Words: 4 Truths to Healing
Have you ever stopped to think about the language you use to your spouse? I’m talking about the actual words, your vocabulary you use. In reality, your words can bring true healing or sure destruction to your spouse and ultimately to your relationship. This may seem like common sense, but let me explain why: Criticism…
Betrayed: How to Address Your Spouse After an Affair
Discovering that your spouse has been unfaithful can potentially be the most devastating thing that one could ever experience in a marriage. Regardless of the context or nature of the affair, in most cases, it is extremely difficult to know how to handle the cascade of thoughts and feelings that follow such a discovery.The good…
A Husband’s Call to Love
Let’s assume that you began reading this post as a woman or wife and/or mother. I’m glad you’re here (I’ll talk to husbands later). This message is for both men and women. Regardless of your current circumstances, healthy or unhealthy, positive or negative, “good” or “bad,” you have prayed or are praying for a partner…
The Greatest Spectacle… In Marriage
Every Memorial Day weekend, race fans from around the world come to the city of Indianapolis, Indiana to witness what has been called the greatest spectacle is racing, The Indianapolis 500. As a kid, growing up in the small Indiana city of Crawfordsville, I always heard of the big race in the "big city" and even…
Become a Master in Managing Conflict with just 4 Steps
Finding yourselves stuck in the same conflict over and over again? Stop spinning your wheels. Try these 4 steps and be on your way to becoming a master of managing conflict!
Q-Tip Challenge: The Power of Choice
You may be wondering... What in the world is the "Q-Tip Challenge?" It begins with a story. In June of 2014 my wife and I stated our vows and said "I do." After our incredible honeymoon in the Dominican Republic, we both came home to a clean apartment, -$150 in our bank account and many,…
Column: Two Types of Marital Conflict
Commentary by Logan Everett Read original column at the Current in Carmel. Couples fight. This is not new information for most, but what do couples really fight about? Answer? Absolutely nothing. When it comes to conflict in relationships, there are two different types: solvable and perpetual Solvable issues have a clear beginning and a clear, concrete, definitive…