The first questions I ask in a therapy session with any couple is, "How did you two first meet? What were your first impressions? What stood out?" You can probably guess the wide range of stories I hear when a couple begins to tell their story. Ultimately, regardless of their first impressions and moments, they…
Father’s Day is a great, but I wouldn’t be the father I am today without one very special woman... Watching you become a mother was nothing short of amazing. How proud I was to watch you meticulously and so selflessly change your lifestyle for months. How impressed I was (and still am) that you carried…
The experience of going through infidelity (or any kind of betrayal) is the very definition of trauma. The very upsetting, confusing, surprising, scary event shakes most individuals to their very core and leaves a devestating wound that may take years to heal. Some may understand that this is a traumatic event, but few understand the…
Discovering that your spouse has been unfaithful can potentially be the most devastating thing that one could ever experience in a marriage. Regardless of the context or nature of the affair, in most cases, it is extremely difficult to know how to handle the cascade of thoughts and feelings that follow such a discovery.The good…
Let’s assume that you began reading this post as a woman or wife and/or mother. I’m glad you’re here (I’ll talk to husbands later). This message is for both men and women. Regardless of your current circumstances, healthy or unhealthy, positive or negative, “good” or “bad,” you have prayed or are praying for a partner…
Commentary by Logan Everett Read original column at the Current in Carmel. Couples fight. This is not new information for most, but what do couples really fight about? Answer? Absolutely nothing. When it comes to conflict in relationships, there are two different types: solvable and perpetual Solvable issues have a clear beginning and a clear, concrete, definitive…
See original column at the Current in Carmel. Commentary by Logan Everett What if science could determine if your marriage would succeed or fail with over 90 percent accuracy? Skepticism would be welcomed, but let science speak for itself. Dr. John Gottman started his research with couples more than 40 years ago when he invited couples to…
As I have worked with couples in private-practice, I have noticed a couple things about couples who come in and see me: They have never once considered therapy and have no idea what to expect. They have had awful experiences with therapists/counselors in the past. While the first can be expected, I want to eliminate…
How many times does it feel like you're preparing for battle or you feel like you get dropped in the middle of "war zone" every time a conflict comes up? You may know it is coming and have your defenses up and ready, but other times it hits you like a big left hook and…
Don't press the "autopilot" button on your intimacy in your marriage. Follow these steps to maintaining intimacy for a lifetime of love.
