We have all been there - something unexpected happens, you get cut off driving down the street or someone ate the rest of the leftovers you were planning to feast on after a difficult day - you get angry. I have heard many approaches to anger and why people express anger in the way that…
Maybe you've heard this before... "Would you just 'calm down?'" Words that have never been more insulting than when you are looking at your spouse who has just hurt you again or continues to hurt you over and over. It's an easy defense to say that you're just "overreacting," but what if you are? How…
The experience of going through infidelity (or any kind of betrayal) is the very definition of trauma. The very upsetting, confusing, surprising, scary event shakes most individuals to their very core and leaves a devestating wound that may take years to heal. Some may understand that this is a traumatic event, but few understand the…
From the end of 2016, it seems to be that women have flooded all of the media outlets from #nastywoman, #metoo, to the most recent #timesup movement. While I haven’t carefully followed much detail of these news stories, I cannot help to be heartbroken, angry, and simply disappointed over how women are/have been treated and…
Let’s assume that you began reading this post as a woman or wife and/or mother. I’m glad you’re here (I’ll talk to husbands later). This message is for both men and women. Regardless of your current circumstances, healthy or unhealthy, positive or negative, “good” or “bad,” you have prayed or are praying for a partner…
Finding yourselves stuck in the same conflict over and over again? Stop spinning your wheels. Try these 4 steps and be on your way to becoming a master of managing conflict!
You may be wondering... What in the world is the "Q-Tip Challenge?" It begins with a story. In June of 2014 my wife and I stated our vows and said "I do." After our incredible honeymoon in the Dominican Republic, we both came home to a clean apartment, -$150 in our bank account and many,…
As I have worked with couples in private-practice, I have noticed a couple things about couples who come in and see me: They have never once considered therapy and have no idea what to expect. They have had awful experiences with therapists/counselors in the past. While the first can be expected, I want to eliminate…
How many times does it feel like you're preparing for battle or you feel like you get dropped in the middle of "war zone" every time a conflict comes up? You may know it is coming and have your defenses up and ready, but other times it hits you like a big left hook and…
Read Part 1 & Part 2 of this three part series before continuing below. The two previous articles give us a foundation for relationships and marriages as we move to our final steps to having a deeper, more intimate connection and marriage with the person that we love the most. Over this past weekend I was…
