The first questions I ask in a therapy session with any couple is, "How did you two first meet? What were your first impressions? What stood out?" You can probably guess the wide range of stories I hear when a couple begins to tell their story. Ultimately, regardless of their first impressions and moments, they…
The experience of going through infidelity (or any kind of betrayal) is the very definition of trauma. The very upsetting, confusing, surprising, scary event shakes most individuals to their very core and leaves a devestating wound that may take years to heal. Some may understand that this is a traumatic event, but few understand the…
How many of you grew up in a home where you were truly allowed to thrive? I’m talking about when you set out on your bike and really explored - when you listened to the entire soundtrack of “Toy Story” in your underwear creating a story filled with tragedy, hope and redemption - when you…
Discovering that your spouse has been unfaithful can potentially be the most devastating thing that one could ever experience in a marriage. Regardless of the context or nature of the affair, in most cases, it is extremely difficult to know how to handle the cascade of thoughts and feelings that follow such a discovery.The good…
Finding yourselves stuck in the same conflict over and over again? Stop spinning your wheels. Try these 4 steps and be on your way to becoming a master of managing conflict!
You may be wondering... What in the world is the "Q-Tip Challenge?" It begins with a story. In June of 2014 my wife and I stated our vows and said "I do." After our incredible honeymoon in the Dominican Republic, we both came home to a clean apartment, -$150 in our bank account and many,…
Commentary by Logan Everett Read original column at the Current in Carmel. Couples fight. This is not new information for most, but what do couples really fight about? Answer? Absolutely nothing. When it comes to conflict in relationships, there are two different types: solvable and perpetual Solvable issues have a clear beginning and a clear, concrete, definitive…
See original column at the Current in Carmel. Commentary by Logan Everett What if science could determine if your marriage would succeed or fail with over 90 percent accuracy? Skepticism would be welcomed, but let science speak for itself. Dr. John Gottman started his research with couples more than 40 years ago when he invited couples to…
Read Part 1 & Part 2 of this three part series before continuing below. The two previous articles give us a foundation for relationships and marriages as we move to our final steps to having a deeper, more intimate connection and marriage with the person that we love the most. Over this past weekend I was…
