Maybe you've heard this before... "Would you just 'calm down?'" Words that have never been more insulting than when you are looking at your spouse who has just hurt you again or continues to hurt you over and over. It's an easy defense to say that you're just "overreacting," but what if you are? How…
The first questions I ask in a therapy session with any couple is, "How did you two first meet? What were your first impressions? What stood out?" You can probably guess the wide range of stories I hear when a couple begins to tell their story. Ultimately, regardless of their first impressions and moments, they…
While at home your spouse walks into the room, makes a statement and asks a question. You've heard this before, you know this isn't going to be a good conversation. You instantly feel tense, worried, scared, or helpless. The conversation continues and the negative tone heightens and the rate of words increases. There's a question,…
The experience of going through infidelity (or any kind of betrayal) is the very definition of trauma. The very upsetting, confusing, surprising, scary event shakes most individuals to their very core and leaves a devestating wound that may take years to heal. Some may understand that this is a traumatic event, but few understand the…
How many of you grew up in a home where you were truly allowed to thrive? I’m talking about when you set out on your bike and really explored - when you listened to the entire soundtrack of “Toy Story” in your underwear creating a story filled with tragedy, hope and redemption - when you…
From the end of 2016, it seems to be that women have flooded all of the media outlets from #nastywoman, #metoo, to the most recent #timesup movement. While I haven’t carefully followed much detail of these news stories, I cannot help to be heartbroken, angry, and simply disappointed over how women are/have been treated and…
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Have you ever stopped to think about the language you use to your spouse? I’m talking about the actual words, your vocabulary you use. In reality, your words can bring true healing or sure destruction to your spouse and ultimately to your relationship. This may seem like common sense, but let me explain why: Criticism…
Discovering that your spouse has been unfaithful can potentially be the most devastating thing that one could ever experience in a marriage. Regardless of the context or nature of the affair, in most cases, it is extremely difficult to know how to handle the cascade of thoughts and feelings that follow such a discovery.The good…
Let’s assume that you began reading this post as a woman or wife and/or mother. I’m glad you’re here (I’ll talk to husbands later). This message is for both men and women. Regardless of your current circumstances, healthy or unhealthy, positive or negative, “good” or “bad,” you have prayed or are praying for a partner…
