The first questions I ask in a therapy session with any couple is, "How did you two first meet? What were your first impressions? What stood out?" You can probably guess the wide range of stories I hear when a couple begins to tell their story. Ultimately, regardless of their first impressions and moments, they…
How many of you grew up in a home where you were truly allowed to thrive? I’m talking about when you set out on your bike and really explored - when you listened to the entire soundtrack of “Toy Story” in your underwear creating a story filled with tragedy, hope and redemption - when you…
Learn the art of an emotionally intelligent conversation to take everyday conversations and create new connections, deeper connections, and stronger relationships.
Let’s assume that you began reading this post as a woman or wife and/or mother. I’m glad you’re here (I’ll talk to husbands later). This message is for both men and women. Regardless of your current circumstances, healthy or unhealthy, positive or negative, “good” or “bad,” you have prayed or are praying for a partner…
Finding yourselves stuck in the same conflict over and over again? Stop spinning your wheels. Try these 4 steps and be on your way to becoming a master of managing conflict!
You may be wondering... What in the world is the "Q-Tip Challenge?" It begins with a story. In June of 2014 my wife and I stated our vows and said "I do." After our incredible honeymoon in the Dominican Republic, we both came home to a clean apartment, -$150 in our bank account and many,…
Commentary by Logan Everett Read original column at the Current in Carmel. Couples fight. This is not new information for most, but what do couples really fight about? Answer? Absolutely nothing. When it comes to conflict in relationships, there are two different types: solvable and perpetual Solvable issues have a clear beginning and a clear, concrete, definitive…
See original column at the Current in Carmel. Commentary by Logan Everett What if science could determine if your marriage would succeed or fail with over 90 percent accuracy? Skepticism would be welcomed, but let science speak for itself. Dr. John Gottman started his research with couples more than 40 years ago when he invited couples to…
As I have worked with couples in private-practice, I have noticed a couple things about couples who come in and see me: They have never once considered therapy and have no idea what to expect. They have had awful experiences with therapists/counselors in the past. While the first can be expected, I want to eliminate…
How many times does it feel like you're preparing for battle or you feel like you get dropped in the middle of "war zone" every time a conflict comes up? You may know it is coming and have your defenses up and ready, but other times it hits you like a big left hook and…
